Just a day {a “work” day}

“Work” is in quotes because I often work from home with Caleb. On meeting days he comes with me, if I’m freelancing in the field he has a sitter. Home days are hardest to concentrate because I’m the only one caring for him. What I’ve learned from doing this two days is that Caleb does his best and longest nap in the morning, so I really need to make sure I’m ready to go and not wasting that time with things like clearing a workspace. Second, it’s a miracle I get anything done in the afternoons since it’s incredibly fractured. Third, I’m incredibly lucky to have the flexibilty to go to the park every day after school, even though usually it’s closer to 5:45 when I do pick-up.

A picture for you mom – unrelated to the post.

IMG_1626Friday, May 30, 14

2:00 am – Caleb wakes (went down at 9pm) Rob gets up and grabs him from the bassinet in the hall and brings him to our bed. We nurse.

5:30 am – Caleb rousing. Nurse pretty consistently until 6:30. I’m in and out of sleep.

6:30 am – Put Caleb back in bassinet and lay in bed awake but with my eyes closed.

6:39 am – Simon climbs into bed and says it’s time to get up. I tell him I get six more minutes. We lay quietly. I get ten!

6:49 am – Simon and I get up.  New diaper and I get his milk and give him my phone to watch Bob the Builder since Rob reset the internet and I haven’t updated his itouch for Netflix.

6:55 am – I finish loading the dishwasher and do dishes left from last night. Answer 1,348,879 questions because Simon NEVER STOPS talking.

7:15 am – Caleb is up. Diaper change. He spits up all over his clothes, so I leave him in just a diaper. Set him in the Bumbo and sit on the couch with Simon for a few to check email, scroll through Facebook, etc…

7:20 am – Simon is hungry. I get his cereal. Caleb is fussing in the seat. I lay him on the floor on a blanket. Simon is occupied with food and Bob the Builder so I hop in the shower.

7:30 am – Out of the shower. I hear Caleb crying. Simon has pulled him on his lap and is talking to him. I give him the pacifier and go to brush my teeth and get dressed.

7:45 am – Give Simon a second bowl of cereal and sit to nurse Caleb.

7:55 am – Caleb is done. Turn on kettle for hot water. Diaper change. He spits up. It’s in his hair. Quick sink bath. Caleb is ready and dressed for the day. Water is hot.

8:05 am – Get Simon dressed.

8:10 am – Remind Rob that it’s Friday and a work day. (He goes in late, this is an acceptable wake up time.  However, most days he is up with me, he’s been up late fixing the internet.)

8:20 am – Simon is whining for more cereal. I decide he must be hitting a growth spurt so decide to make a real breakfast. Start sausages.

8:40 am – Rob is ready. He makes toast and packs his lunch. I start an egg for him. Simon eats most of the sausages (4 or 5!!!) Caleb is happy on his blanket. He rolls over!

9:00 am – Start getting ready to leave with shoes and jackets. Simon decides he needs a different monster truck to take to school.

9:15 am – Have wrestled big child into shoes and jackets. Rob takes him to school. I clean up breakfast and start the dishwasher, water the plants.

9:30 am – Remember that I have baby books that need updated, since Caleb has now rolled 2 days in a row! Pull them off the shelf and fill in bits here and there.

9:45 am – Caleb wants to eat. I feed him while writing.

10:00 am – Caleb is done and asleep. I leave him on his blanket and covered since it’s a little chilly with the open door. I finish the books and start clearing off my desk to work. (It’s covered from being away for a few days and turning into a dumping ground.) In this processes, I find some things that go in the boys room, so put those away, clean up some more of the closet, remember I still haven’t found the space saver bags I put somewhere safe but now need for Rob’s winter clothes…look for those, no dice. Find school paperwork for summer session and next fall – fill this out. Plug in the camera and download pictures from last weekend. Find missing camera battery for other camera. Start this post.

11:10 am – Here I am. Find notebook with lists, grab coffee and open work files.

11:15 am – Decide I’d rather blog more. Write out Thursday.

11:45 am – Finish Thursday. Caleb awake. And MAD. Change Caleb.

11:47 am – Feed Caleb and read blogs.

11:55 am – Caleb is done eating and drowsy. He needs a change again, bad… Decide to wait a minute to see if he’s really asleep.

Noon – Awake it is. Change him. He burps and huge pukes. Pants to laundry. Leave him in onesie for now, it’s not too bad.

12:10 – Notice dishwasher is done. Drain the water line and unplug.  Caleb rolls over again! Pull out play mat for Caleb.

12:14 – Work for real this time.

12:45 – Caleb is fussing. Diaper change. I pick him up to go in the sling while I work. He throws up all over me. I rinse out sling and the skirt of my dress and hang to dry so I can wear it tonight. Clean up Caleb. I just washed this sling yesterday too…

12:50 – Read while holding Caleb. We take breaks for smiles.

1:05 – Decide to put him in my other sling so I can type and decide that maybe I should sell it after all with all the puking I need the back-up. He immediately spits up. Again… also think maybe it’s time to try another food elimination. I thought he was tolerating dairy ok…maybe not. Work and play and work and play and clean up more spit-up.

2:00 – Caleb is in just a diaper. Heat up leftovers for lunch. Change diaper. Plop Caleb in swing. He’s happy. Eat. He spits up…Again. Clean him off, at least he’s laughing.

2:10 – Back to work. Look over Caleb is sleeping. I’ve cut over 1,000 words while editing. Woo!

3:30 – I make it completely through the paper I’m editing! First pass. More to do. But time for a break. Edit some pictures from last weekend.

4:00 – Pack up the double stroller and Caleb, who wakes up during the transfer. Run to pick up charcoal for our Family Group cook out.

4:30 – Finally get to the park and drop off the charcoal. Feed Caleb while chatting with some friends.

4:50 – Leave Caleb at the park since he’s fed and happy and run to pick-up Simon from School.

5:00 – Get to school and talk to the office ladies about the summer schedule, then pick up Simon. Fend off his friends who are asking why we aren’t going to the [other] park today. Pack up Simon in a ruck and head back to the cook out.

5:15 – Back at the park. Hand Simon off to the teen boys who watch the kids on Fridays. Sit with some lemonade in the pic nic area. Feed Caleb and wait for burgers.

5:16 – 7:35 – Kids play and eat and play some more. Adults chat and eat and watch kids and chat some more.

7:40 – The rain starts sprinkling down. Not hard or even for very long, but just enough that the kids don’t fight getting in strollers to head home.

8:00 – Bathtime!

8:10 – Simon goes to bed. Caleb is changed and fed, but fussing. Lay him in the bassinet, watch a show with Rob.

9:00 – Caleb still fussing. Grab him and feed him. Watch something else. Rob starts installing a new harddrive on the computer in our bedroom.

9:30 – Caleb asleep. I doze in and out with the tv while holding him on the couch.

10:15 – Put Caleb down. Our bed is covered in tools and computer parts. Go to sleep on the couch.

midnightish – Wake up. Go to our bed.

Lather, Rinse, Repeat.


Just a day in the life. {home with kids}

I’m not sure if yesterday was typical or atypical. Every day is pretty different depending on what I have going on work wise. Usually on my “home” days (I also work from home, but I mean Simon is home days) we’ll do one fun thing – the park or an adventure and one errand thing. Yesterday both halves of the day were errands. I was away for 5 days over the weekend and we are about to embark on the June of Insanity, so there were just a lot of things that needed to be done. I didn’t decide to do this until later in the day – after reading Josey’s post – so the early morning is off. I actually thought I’d do Friday, then decided to do both days. (I decided this after Josey did the same thing 🙂 )

Thursday May 29, 2014

6:30/6:45  – Nursing Caleb, Rob gets up to give Simon his milk. There is breakfast and morning stuff. Showers, clothes… Rob fixes my internet passwords and I send a couple of school emails. Simon watches Kung Fu Panda 2. I feed Caleb.

8:30 – Rob leaves for work. Simon is still watching his movie. I’m making a very long to-do list and packing up all the stuff. Do some more emails and make some phone calls. Play a matching card game with Simon.

9:30 – Movie is over. I get Simon dressed and ready. I pour coffee. Caleb wakes up, needs to eat again.

10:00 – We are finally ready to go. I take the double stroller. I remember my coffee!! We go to the Drug Store to exchange size 1 diapers for size 1, to the bank to take care of a couple of things, drop off a package at the UPS store.

11:15 – Simon is whining that he wants a snack. I remember it’s my sister’s birthday and she likes donuts so we stop and get a donut. Simon wants to eat in Store. I take a picture and text Emily “Happy Birthday”


11:30 – He finishes his donut and stops being cute. I say no to a second donut. We leave so we can have a “talk” not in front of a store of people. Simon wants to be carried so I throw him on my back in the sling. We go to the post office.

11:45 – Pick up package from the post office. Simon is excited for his present. I ask if he wants to hold it in the stroller or ride in the back pack. He chooses back pack. We talk on the walk home.

Noon – I feel Simon slump over. I check my reflection in a window. He’s out. Caleb is out – he fell asleep sometime between leaving donuts and now.

12:10 – Home and do a successful back to bed transfer. Simon started yammering about his present, but I patted his back and he stayed asleep. (He is actually quite the sleep talker). I open my present!

12:20 – Caleb is up. Change his diaper. Five minute feed. Asleep again! Put him in the swing.

12:45 – I tweet about the double nap. I don’t know what to do with myself. I finish unpacking and re-do some organization in the “bathtub closet”

1:00 – I decide to eat some ice cream and watch an episode of Call the Midwife on the balcony. Worth it.

2:00 – Start some more organizing of the great winter to summer clothes change.

2:15 – Simon is up. Make him some lunch. He gets to open his present, some card games. One of them has a fish. He wants to watch Nemo. I set him up with Nemo and chicken nuggets. I start putting things away in the closet storage in his room. Also, purging clothes I will never wear again. Simon comes to “help” and also to play trains and monster trucks in the room with me. Nemo is still on.

3:00 – Caleb wakes up. Change him. Feed him. Spit up! Change Clothes. Sing happy birthday videos for Emily. Simon holds and blows out candles for the singing. Send videos.

3:30 – Nemo is over. Start packing up to go to the grocery. Don’t bring a carrier. On the way stop in a couple of store to get a security tag removed from a dress I bought in Indiana. None of the stores have this type of tag.

4:00 – At the grocery. Simon wants to help. He’s usually quite good. We are getting a lot. He asks 1,343,456, questions about everything and also NEVER STOPS MOVING.

4:30 – He runs off one too many times. In front of this mom (who really probably wasn’t paying attention to us) that we have been shopping in parrallelish for awhile. I get more annoyed than I should because of this. I make him sit in the stroller. There is no room for him in the stroller. I am now stressed.

5:00 – Finally checking out. Realize that no carrier was a very bad idea and this will never happen again. Simon has to sit with food all around him.

5:30 – Make it home. Caleb is asleep again. Simon watches Bob the Builder on my phone. I start unpacking groceries. Simon gets a snack.

6:00 – I start dinner. Finish unpacking groceries. Unload and reload dishwasher. Caleb is up. Change and feed him.

7:15 – Dinner is ready and Rob is home. With beer.

7:45 – Simon asks for popcorn and a milkshake for dessert. Ok, but first clean up toys and put on pjs.

8:00 – I finish cleaning the closet and putting clothes away. Milkshakes are ready. I feed Caleb while we start Cloudy With a Chance of Meatballs 2. Caleb throws everything up. I get him clean clothes and go change myself. He is wide awake.

9:00 – Time for bed (this is the late end of Simon’s bedtime window) Rob walks him to bed, tucks him in and says goodnight. (Don’t hate me – it hasn’t always been this easy, he didn’t sleep through the night consistently until 27 months)

9:15 – Caleb doesn’t want to eat. I lay him down in the bassinet. He fusses for five minutes, then laughs and coos for a bit, then asleep.

9:20 – I catch up on blogs in bed.

10:00 – Bedtime.

A Day at the Fair: Governors Island

Last weekend we finally made the trek to Governors Island. The East River Ferry from Long Island City is a nice hour cruise to the Island. Simon napped the whole way.


When we got there we explored the buildings and walked along the water.


Simon loves the water – and thanks to our Maine cruise a few weeks ago thinks he is going to see whales. Always.


Then a nice walk through the big lawn in the middle of the island to the vintage French fair. All summer you can view and RIDE vintage carousels and some swings. There is even a small roller coaster! And some midway games. We bought a pack of 10 tickets (1 ticket a ride) and had some fun.


First we rode this bicycle carousel. Simon was VERY upset he couldn’t ride the bicycle part. But he was too small to ride alone so we sat in the “car” seat behind the bicycle so he could still drive. IMG_0783

Rob rode the bicycle part. He had a hard time keeping his legs pedaling fast enough.


Then Simon wanted to “ride the pig” and insisted upon it and ran across the fair to find it.

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This one was perfect for a toddler because it went pretty slow. He had a great time being able to sit or stand while we went around. He was sad when it was over.

But it was ok because that meant it was time to “DRIVIN A BUS!” This ride is designed for littles. If he were a bit more confident he totally could have gone alone. Instead I sat in the middle just so he knew I was there.

This one he loved so much he rode it twice. I was proud of Simon because there were other kids who got in the bus first on the next ride. So I asked him if he wanted to ride the car or wait for the bus. He said the bus. So we stood at the gate holding a ticket and he waited!

***Sidenote*** The reason the waiting is noteworthy is that Simon got in the bus for his second turn and another kid (from the previous ride who wouldn’t get off) was in the other driving seat. A bigger kid – 3 or 4 – got on and threw a HUGE tantrum because he wanted to sit in the driver seat. To the point he came over GRABBED Simon and tried to pull him off the seat. You better believe I stopped that pretty quickly. And then the kids mom is trying to get him out of this bus as he is hitting and pushing. He didn’t take the suggestion to wait for the next turn so well. Mostly I felt bad for the mom and not at all like I should make Simon move – because he had waited his turn so patiently. Mostly he was really confused about the whole tantrum and just wanted the bus to start.

After the bus we took a family ride on the one carousel with horses. Rob rode a horse. Simon decided last minute that this was not cool – so we rode in a rocking carriage.

The we finished the day with some overpriced snacks and some dancin’.

I do want to go back. Maybe this summer, that probably won’t happen. And Simon was disappointed on the ferry home that there were no whales “makin’ a water fountain”.


  • I’m ready to make my way back to this space. I’ve missed blogging and writing for me. I’ve been rediscovering hobbies – quilting, reading, gardening (finally) and it’s time to come back to writing. I say that my home life and family are a priority and I’m working really hard to have my actions display this. Part of that is not taking on too much at school and part of that is spending less time on the computer.

    This is what family time looks like. All pictures from Mother’s Day.
  • I love what Rob calls my Vespa dress. It’s a shirt dress in a fun print. i bought a couple new dresses in the same style only solid colors. This is going to be the summer of the dress. And I have all of Grandma’s jewelry that makes dressing up so fun!

    See the amazing earrings!
  • I turned in my final grades for the class I teach last night. As much as I complain about the teaching, I really do care about the students and I want them to do well. I lucked out with a really small class this semester (14 students) and it really is amazing what a difference class size makes in establishing classroom rapport.

    Love this boy!
    Love this boy!
  • I’ve officially started my dissertation. I’m working on the proposal which will end up as a part of the final product. The current timeline is to defend the proposal in early September and then finish the dissertation as soon as possible. I have two other projects that I’ll also be working for the next few weeks, but they are small. I’m really working on removing stress and not taking on too much.

    Too bright Mama!
  • For Mother’s Day Rob and Simon took me to tea. Simon slept through the whole thing, which meant more scones for me. I am a terrible food blogger, so all I have is a picture of the empty plates. After tea we walked through SoHo, went to the MakerBot store, ate some pudding, went to Barnes & Noble, and then to the fabric store to purchase necessities for some baby quilts. I thought it was a pretty great day.

    Bad food blogger!
  • Simon deserves a post of his own, but for the quick update: he’s 22 months, talking in sentences, starting to love tv, obsessed with trains, sleeping in a toddler bed, and fully into the terrible twos. He’s pretty awesome.

Let’s just assume if it can get worse, it will.

To understand the title of this post let me take you back to Tuesday night…

Last Tuesday night my phone rang. It was late, I was almost asleep and didn’t get to the phone before it went to voice mail. It was my dad and I thought – “I bet it’s about Grandma.” I didn’t call him back since there was no message left and I figured if it were an emergency he would call Rob too.

Wednesday, I had a meeting with my adviser that went all day, so I never called my dad back. But he left a message for me while I was on the subway, that grandma was in the hospital. I called him at 5:30 when I got off the train, and he had just got a call that Grandma had died. She was 89 and in declining health, but an hour before she passed she had been awake and talking to my uncle.

My coping mechanism is to make plans. So as soon as I get home I start working on flight possibilities which are further complicated by the fact that Rob is leaving at 6AM on Thursday for a business trip to Toronto.

I spent two hours on the phone with various airlines. Some airlines have bereavement fares (only 5% off the ticket price). All of the direct flights were just too expensive so we went with connecting flights. I booked my flight and half of Rob’s online, but to get Rob from Toronto to Indiana he took a different airline and I had to book on the phone. I get the $9 off, then the agent says “and there is a $25 fee for booking over the phone” (cue me about to yell) “but I’ll waive that since it’s for bereavement.” And she SHOULD because otherwise the discount costs money. So now we have tickets and Rob is leaving for Canada.

Thursday – nothing bad happened this day. I packed and did tons of laundry. I had an appointment in Manhattan near St. Patrick’s, so I went to the church and got to be sad for awhile. I lit a candle to St. Andrew (my grandpa’s name) and it felt right. I finished packing after Simon went to bed, booked a car for 4:45AM and went to bed early.

***Here is where it gets worse.*** Friday at 2:15, Simon wakes up screaming. Really screaming, usually he does this when he is cold or stuck. So I go to get him and he is wet. “Great, his diaper has leaked…Fine I’ll change him and he can sleep with me…” I turn on the light and he is COVERED from hair to waist in chunky banana vomit. It was gross. This is the first time he’s been sick where he doesn’t smell like a baby. So I get him cleaned up, enough, and know that I am going to have to give him a bath before we leave, which means I need to get up at 3:55 to give myself an extra 20 minutes. (I had planned on just putting him in the car in his pjs and getting him ready at the airport) I clean up the mess in the crib as Simon stands next to me crying and saying “uh-oh.”

We lay in my bed and I nurse him and he falls asleep and I rub his back. After 40 minutes or so it seems like he is out, so I roll to my side of the bed (the one plus of Rob being gone is there is plenty of space for me and baby) and just as I’m about to go back to sleep, I hear the cough followed by more vomit. Liquid this time, so at least there is that. I peeled Simon’s clothes off and pulled the sheets down. I wrapped him in a clean part and moved him to my side of the bed. It’s 3:15 and I know I’m not going back to sleep…. And again. This time he says uh-oh and tries to use the towel I’ve been wiping him with to clean it up himself. Pathetic and cute. I wrap him in the last clean spot at the foot of our bed. It’s 3:30. I send out a Facebook plea for prayers that this stops before the flight then decide to just take a shower and get ready to go. About a minute after I get in the shower I hear little feet. Simon is up.

And he seems ok. A little whiny and clingy, but not sick… At 4:30 we are packed up in the carrier and walking out the door. And then it gets much worse, as the vomit stars spewing. All over Simon, the carrier, me, the floor, everything. I start peeling off clothes and cry a little. I had called Rob a couple of times, but was sent straight to voice mail. This time I left a message “you can’t turn off your phone.” (except that he’s in ANOTHER COUNTRY – I seem to forget this about Canada – so he can to avoid international roaming charges) Then I called the pediatrician. Hating to wake someone up at 4:30, but really not sure if I should get on this plane. The doctor said, other than the unpleasantness of vomit on a plane, it was fine to go and to give him benedryl and hope he sleeps.

So I get us cleaned up and changed. Send a prayer of gratitude that I have a second carrier (we travel sans stroller these days) throw multiple changes of clothes into the suitcase (just in case) and get in the waiting car. At the airport check-in and security go smoothly. I get a coffee and learn the airport doesn’t carry children’s medicines. Simon seems happy to play with his trains in the very empty gate area. I text my mom – please pick up children’s benedryl Simon is sick. Then I text her – Can you bring me black cardigan to go with my dress (I had been wearing mine during the last “episode”). Then I text – at this point let’s just assume if it can get worse it will.

But we have good plane karma. Our flights weren’t full, so we had a row to ourselves. Simon slept. On the second flight, same thing only he ate some breakfast and played trains. We get to Indiana and I find out my mom didn’t have her phone all morning, so had received none of my texts or the two voice mails. It’s ok, we stop and get me some lunch and buy a sweater and some medicine.

I get to the church for the wake at 2:15. I’ve been up for 12 hours. Simon has a fever now, but also has medicine in him. I’m too tired to be sad. I can barely stay awake. The visitation was nice, as these things go. Many people from my childhood came to say goodbye to Grandma. I feel like I need to apologize for me lack of making any conversations – oh the tired. I finally got to sleep at 9:30. Simon woke up at 11:57. Rob got in at 2. Simon woke up vomiting at 5:30…

We made it to the funeral. Simon’s fever broke and there have been no signs of sickness since. I never want to travel alone with a sick child again. I was so close to not getting on that plane – I’m glad I did and that it all worked out.