Seven Years: How I met my husband.

Seven Years ago today my life changed forever. I was working as an Associate Producer for a small company and two of my colleagues invited me to a birthday party for someone I didn’t know, but I went because I needed a social life. At this party I talked to Rob Powers for the first time. The rest as they say is history…

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October 2013.

So much has changed in just seven years. In 2007 I was single, living in Brooklyn, and working in film and television. I hadn’t even started this blog yet (that was September 2007) – I thought blogs were kind of dumb.

Today. I am a wife and mother of two. I am a graduate student so very close to a PhD in Psychology. I am a homeowner and a blogger. It’s kind of everything I ever wanted but not at all how I pictured it would be.

So on this anniversary I’m going to tell you about how I met my husband. I don’t think I’ve ever written it out before.

I actually met Rob for the first time in late February when we hired him to do some animation for a project I was working on. I wasn’t very good at it yet and our first interaction as we remember it was me going to look at what he’d done at the end of the day and saying “that’s not how it’s supposed to look.” Then I walked away giving no other instruction. (that’s probably not really true – but whatever I did say wasn’t helpful for him to understand what I meant…) Then I didn’t see him again because my great uncle died the next day and I flew home for the funeral.

A month later March 22, 2007 I was invited to this birthday party at a bar downtown. I knew the two people who invited me and was introduced to lots of people there. I had a long and intriguing conversation about bacon and a bacon of the month club with the birthday boy and then I recognized Rob. Even though I didn’t really know him, he was someone I had at least met before. He came over to the table I was sitting at and we spent the rest of the night talking. While I remember many parts of that conversation nothing is truly noteworthy until I was ready to go. Because this was a Thursday night. And I had to work the next day. Rob walked to the door of the bar with me then started talking again (for those that know Rob – this may be the most he’s ever talked in one night) and all I could think was “OMG I’m so tired and I have to go home now so walk me to the train or go away.” And I left. And all Rob’s friends were like “did you get her number” and he said “I’m never going to see her again.”

The next night I was invited to a show – The H.M.S. Pinafore Puppet Show. I’m not sure how I knew Rob would be there. Either he had mentioned it at the party or the mutual friend who invited me mentioned it because he had asked her for my number and she wouldn’t give it without my consent but knew he was interested. (The number conversation did happen.) I wanted to go. But I didn’t want anyone to know the reason I wanted to go was to see Rob again – because I am crazy. So I invited others along too…on my kind of date…because I am crazy. We went to the show. I sat next to Rob. It was nice.

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At the pub. Sitting together.

Then we went to the pub for dinner and it was all how to make sure we sat together without making a big deal aboutit. (Because in my mind IT WAS ALL ABOUT US. In reality I’m sure no one other than the mutual friend who knew of the interest had ANY IDEA.) We sat together and had a nice evening. He held my hand under the table. Then he walked me to the train and asked if he could call. I had his number already (because I hired him) and texted him first thing the next day.

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Karoke, late April.

Our first one on one date was on March 27. We went to an Italian restaurant in Hell’s Kitchen then walked to Lincoln Center and across Central Park. The two memorable parts here are 1) I asked him what his parents did for a living and he said “Well my dad is dead.” And how do you respond to that? 2) He tried to kiss me at the train and I turned my head so he only got my cheek.

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Wonder Wheel, Coney Island. May 2007.

Date two I got stuck working late, but since I worked with people he knew and we were keeping it quiet I didn’t want to tell anyone why I needed to leave on time so I just kept working. Until 9:00! I usually left at 6:30. I told Rob we could cancel early in the evening, but he waited for me. Noteworthy because he wasn’t living in the city at the time. We went to Johnny Rockets. This time he kissed me at the train. I was wearing my green coat.

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Tea. Spring 2007.

Our third date we went to an art show in Williamsburg and then he came to my apartment for dinner and to watch The Departed. We started the movie late enough that he was going to miss the last train. Unintentional, but we were both aware of this but avoiding this. He slept over. On top of the covers. In all of his clothes. Such a gentleman.

The next day I emailed my sister that I had met this guy. He was really nice and something must be wrong with him. So maybe I shouldn’t see him anymore. She basically told me to stop being stupid.

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Saratoga. June 2007.

And that’s how I met my husband. The rest of the timeline.

June 2007 – Trip to Saratoga with my cousins.

July 2007 – Trip to Indiana to go to a wedding and meet my family. I went to Brazil to see Emily and told her I was going to marry him.

November 2007 – Started talking marriage and do we want to look at rings. My family came to NYC for Thanksgiving.

December 2007 – Rob joined me for half the trip to Indiana Christmas and not one family member cracked a joke about marriage (that should have been my first clue this was for real)

January 26, 2008 – Engaged!

August 10, 2008Married!

July 9, 2011 – Simon.

February 10, 2014 – Caleb.

Date Night: Newsies!

DSC05140Saturday, Rob and I had what easily falls in to the Top 10 of our greatest dates ever. Our Christmas present to ourselves was a set of tickets to see Newsies on Broadway. It is one of my most favorite movies and I realized that I would forever regret not seeing it. We only go to about one show a year so we make it count and get the best seats we can, but really in most of the theaters there are no bad seats.

As a lover of the movie I will say that it took me a little while to let go of my expectations and embrace the changes to the stage version. And I did enjoy it but I still love the movie more. ***SPOILERS Ahead***

Davey’s sister and the newspaper reporter were combined to a newspaper woman who is also Jack’s love interest. This was a bit jarring, but I understand how it simplified and moved the story along.

I wasn’t a huge fan of Medda, she just seemed to loud and over the top. I was sad to see “Lovey Dovey Baby” go, but I did like the replacement song used.

I like the new “Brooklyn” song a lot and it doesn’t hurt that there is a nod to Woodside (my current ‘hood) in the scene. I did miss the surge of more Newsies that is possible in film, but not stage as the cast size can’t double for just a few scenes. The staging was done well though.

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The end got really cheesy and I don’t think that the changes furthered the story, so that was a little annoying. It is my personal opinion that if you are going to make changes there should be a reason. Why are the children of the newspaper giants involved – really, Pulitzer, Hurst, and a third’s children all want to defy their parents and band together. And when Jack yells “We won!” well, they didn’t really. They compromised (with a smaller hike, but the paper would buy back unsold papers) but whatever.

I really hated that Pulitzer offers Jack a job as a political cartoonist. The offer would never happen, nor would Jack take it. At least not the Jack I know and love.

The final scene with Teddy Roosevelt was just weird. He was a caricature and the dialogue made me cringe a little. everyone was just a bit to loud. And then Medda came in with her line about “let me see that back seat everyone’s been talking about. hahaha” and that was it for me. Not because of the innuendo, but because they CHANGED THE WORDS TO THE SONGS in a few places, but notably removing “met this girl last night” and “a Saturday night with the mayor’s daughter” which I assumed was to make it more family friendly. Fine. If you must. But then don’t go add something else “unacceptable” by that standard. This I wasn’t happy with. Plus, it’s really hard to sing along with your favorite songs (in my head not out loud, don’t worry I’m not that obnoxious) when they CHANGE THE WORDS!

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So now you are wondering – this is in your Top 10 dates? Yes it is and here is why. We had an afternoon out where we did something fun and we weren’t worried or stressed about work or Simon. And after we went to dinner. Once every year or two, we go out to a nice restaurant and order all the courses and don’t worry about the cost. This was that meal. But the date wasn’t great because of the cost. The date was great because we sat and ate for two hours! And we talked about things other than work stress and Simon. We talked about nothing and everything. We talked about our relationships and our personal and professional goals. We laughed and dreamed. And that is why it was a great date.

We haven’t come up with the full Top 10, but at least three are from when we were dating. And one is our first anniversary and another last year’s War Horse and dinner date. But now for your viewing pleasure a picture of us on our first unofficial date in March 2007 (before the blog) when we went to see the H.M.S. Pinafore Puppet Show with dinner at Half King afterward. We were with a large group of friends. Rob sat next to me and held my hand under the table. That is possibly the most life changing date of my life.

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Birthday Week for Rob

Today is the official start of Rob’s Birthday Week.  He will be 34 on July 6th.  However, there is a chance that the baby will forever ruin Rob’s birthday, because if they have to share we all know Rob will take the backseat.  We want to make this birthday a good one, but we also knew we should start early.  When Rob said he’d like to see a show for his birthday I bought the tickets.  For May 31.  To see  The Book of Morman, which is a pretty hot ticket to get right now.

When I bought the tickets there were only partial view seats (boxes) available until mid-August.  But since we live here I just asked for the best available seats in May or June.  That’s what we got.  The downside to box seats is we missed action on the far right, but not such a big deal.  The upside is that we were in real chairs so it was easier to move as needed and Rob had LEG ROOM!

Our location also made it a prime spot to scan the audience for famous people.  I am not so great at spotting celebrities.  I once literally walked into Hank Azaria on 42nd Street and didn’t recognize him.  Rob pointed it out once I’d apologized for my clumsiness and we were out of earshot.  But the woman behind us recognized Jack Nicholson sitting just below us.  There were also some other well know theater folk in attendance, but I didn’t recognize those names.

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We had no camera on this outing, so the iPod photos throughout this post will have to do.  I know you can’t really tell, but trust me, it’s him.

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Happy Birthday Week to my awesome husband who puts up with so much from me!

Also on the agenda for birthday week: 1) dinner this past Wednesday at Salt & Fat, the new hot restaurant in the ‘hood  2) Transformers 3 and brunch one morning this weekend  3) an activity or meal TBD  4) cake at home, maybe with a few friends over  5) most likely have a baby

Birthday Week: Tuesday and Wednesday

Tuesday’s massage was lovely.  I had no idea how sore my upper legs were until she started working on them.  30 extra pounds will do that to you I guess.  The downside was that My leg muscles were so relaxed that I had a hard time standing or walking the rest of the day.  I have since built up some strength again 🙂

Wednesday I went into the city to meet Rob and go to the Harry Potter exhibit at Discovery Times Square.  The exhibit is lots of costumes and props from the movies.  It was a little underwhelming only because since Rob and I both work/have worked in film we wanted to know more about how models were used and effects were done rather than just read “this thingamabob was used by so-and-so in X movie”  But we had a coupon to go, and it was a nice evening.

No photos were allowed inside, but here are a couple out front as we were leaving.

would you believe I’m nine months pregnant here?

Afterward we needed dinner so we headed down the block to John’s Pizzeria.  This may be the best (thin crust) pizza I’ve ever had.  They cook it in a real brick oven.  And because it was right as the theater was starting and there were only two in our party we were seated quickly.