around here: week 4

Jan 20-27

Debating…the pros and cons of taking a job. I got an offer! It is a big decision and a big change. It wasn’t easy and we didn’t make it lightly, but…

Happy…to have reached a decision and to have a new direction. Taking this job is right. And exciting. And big things to come. I’ve been doing a lot of soul searching over the past few months trying to figure out what it is I want to do with my life and my degree.


Surprised…At how well Simon is reading.

Enjoying…a night out with good friends.

Playing…with the slo-mo setting on our new phones
Still laughing…at these.


Today has been one of those days where I kind of wish I blogged anonymously.  Then I could tell the Internet all about it.  Instead Rob gets an earful of venting when I get home.  Since I don’t want to publicly state it all, the short version is today I got to spend my afternoon dealing with the crap part of teaching that I really really hate.  The part that extinguishes any of the growing feeling of “OK, maybe I could stay in academics and teach” completely.  The part that reminds me why I stopped wanting to teach 10 years ago.  The thing is I don’t actually disagree with the problem.  I disagree with being notified of it 3 weeks into a semester and the quick fix is to change the curriculum I’ve been working on for almost a year (and would affect almost 600 students).  We’re working on a solution.  But seriously, I’ve cursed more today than I have in the past year.  Probably not really, but it feels like it.

Today I am STILL dealing with a paperwork issue that should have been resolved in JUNE when I made a special trip in while 37 weeks pregnant to find some documents were missing.  They were sent. I am now told they are missing again and the person who can fix it does not return email or phone calls.

Not anonymously, Simon was with me.  And it was the first day I was kind of glad he was.  BUT due to some miscommunication, the babysitter didn’t show, so that was fun… And he went through 3 outfits by 2 o’clock.  His current onesie has both poo and pee stains and I just don’t care.  Because he’s not getting another outfit before pajama time.  Which is soon.

BUT Simon smiles now.  And he laughs.  And Ellen down the hall can get him to do almost a real belly laugh.  And it’s so cute it makes me cry.  So despite all the stress, there is good.  And I’m kind of most excited that the fall TV season starts tonight.

A Day in the Life: 12th of September

I started blogging four years ago on Wednesday.  One of those early, first month I was blogging posts was a rundown of my crazy day.  I was thinking today that I should do a play-by-play post and remembered that early one.  You can read about that day, I started at 5:15, I’m guessing I went to bed the night before between 10 and midnight.  It’s funny how my life is so different, yet still very much the same.

I’m going to start this day at midnight, due to no longer sleeping through the night.

Midnight – Go to bed after folding baby laundry and finishing prepping for my class today.
2:ish am – FEED THE BABY
4:54 am – FEED THE BABY
6:15 am – FEED THE BABY
6:20 am – Alarm goes off, it’s NPR so I let it play
6:25 am – Put baby back in bassinet and hit snooze so I can sleep 10 more minutes before getting up
7:14 am – Overslept, wake to radio, get up start shower and ask Rob to please change and dress the baby.  So glad I laid out clothes and diapers last night.
7:35 – Pump for five minutes so baby has a snack
7:48 am – Leave for CSI with Simon.  Only 10 minutes late, but no time for either of us to have breakfast (and I never got around to packing lunch either)
8:05 am – on the 7 train.
8:34 am – on the Express Bus to SI
10:00 am – arrive at the lab where I work, FEED THE BABY drink some water, eat an energy bar
10:10 am – Simon charms the office ladies, I check my mailbox
10:15 am – check email and respond to students, count photocopies for class, random class prep stuff, meet with a student, Anna (a fellow grad student, who has generously agreed to childcare) arrives and I go over Simon’s care (diapers, bottle, etc…)
10:55 am – FEED THE BABY
11:10 am – teach my class
1:10 pm – finish class meet with a student, pick up the baby, who is freaking out in the hall, on the way to the office with student to fix a schedule problem.
1:15 pm – give Simon back to Anna so I can sign some papers
1:20 pm – FEED THE BABY who is like OMG I am starving and you never FEED ME
1:50 pm – Simon is asleep. Eat an energy bar, drink some water. Answer student emails, work on online class prep.
2:10 pm – meet with Patty
2:15 pm – meet with another student
2:30 pm – head to office to fix more scheduling things.
2:45 pm – BABY woke up and OMG you left me alone and I don’t know where I am and I am going to FREAK OUT
2:50 pm – FEED THE BABY
3:00 pm – Simon is happy, start working on the three things I MUST finish before leaving (two of them are sending two sentence emails…)
3:30 pm – Simon has had ENOUGH of work today.  Meet with Naomi.
3:50 pm – Finish last email.  Pack up.
4:00 pm – leave the lab
4:15 pm – Express Bus back to Manhattan, think about reading for class on Wednesday, take a nap instead.
5:15 pm – On the 7 train
5:48 pm – Arrive home and OMG I woke up and I don’t care that you are wearing me in the carrier I don’t know where I am and am going to FREAK OUT, and I’m really wet and I think you forgot to feed me today.
5:50 pm – change the baby
5:53 om – FEED THE BABy
6:00 pm – ask Rob to please turn on the US Open because I’m still FEEDING THE BABY
6:10 pm – hand the baby to the Daddy and eat a pudding cup
6:50 pm – FEED THE BABY
7:00 pm – Pour a glass of wine, and blog, the veggie lasagna (thank you Tammy!) is almost done.
7:02 pm – Simon FREAKS OUT again.  Rob has him, he’s not wet, dirty, or hungry.  Rob plays his least favorite game “Cry Until Your Tired”  Simon lost around 7:20.  He sleeps until he’ll be ready to eat again soon.

Kind of ready for bed now.  The rest of the night will include eating dinner, watching tennis, watching Bachelorpad #guiltypleasure, and bed by 10:30 – I hope.  And of course there will be more FEEDING THE BABY.

Tomorrow we go to the doctor for our 2 month shots.

*Simon travels in the Ergo carrier on these trips.  He pretty much sleeps the entire time.  I can feed him in it if I need to.
*I do NOT eat enough on CSI days.  Kind of no time, but I’m working on it.  Usually if I pack something I eat it, but it might take a couple of hours.  The second energy bar today actually took two “sessions”


Saturday night Rob and I had the opportunity to attend the PSCH Gala through his work.  It was black-tie optional, which means Rob could wear his suit, but I totally needed something new.  So last weekend Rob took my shopping for and evening gown.  Saturday night we got dressed up.  The Gala was at Chelsea Piers and the room was all glass / windowed walls with views of the Hudson.  During cocktail hour was a silent auction.  We bid on some things but did not win, and that is probably ok.  Dinner and dancing followed.  Dinner was pretty good, desert was excellent.  They were a little to liberal with the wine.  I would take a sip they would fill it up.  Really people, I only wanted a half glass to start with!  We had a blast.  I hope we get more opportunities in the future.  We like getting dressed up in fancy clothes and finding new ways for philanthropy.

PSCH (Promoting Specialized Care and Health) has been providing services in New York City for 30 years.  From their website “Since 1980 PSCH has been meeting the growing challenges of developmental disabilities, mental illness and co-occurring substance abuse behaviors. Our multidisciplinary approach and centralized referral process help to insure that each person who comes under our care receives the appropriate range of services and level of care, with an individual treatment plan coordinated by highly competent and caring case management professionals.”  We were glad to buy raffle tickets to support this organization.

Coney Island Film Festival

Friday was the opening night party at the Coney Island Film Festival, which takes place (obviously) at Coney Island.  What makes this festival unique is the fact that is comes with a sideshow.  Rob says it’s the most fun of any festival he’s attended – and we went to Cannes earlier this year! (Which was awesome in a completely different way)

As part of the party we were privileged to attend Burlesque by the Beach and get a taste of some of the different kinds of acts that take place here.  The Burlesque is in the back room of the Coney Island Museum, and there is a stage with some wooden bleachers.  It felt like a circus in the 1930’s where some seats were set up in a tent.  It’s part of the vibe that I love about Coney Island.  The show was hosted by the Great Fredini, who kept us going with magic tricks and illusions.  And some sword swallowing.  That was impressive.

The Great Fredini
The Great Fredini

In the first half of the show we saw Serpentina, the snake charmer (and also our bartender)


Aci, who is one member of Tokyo Delores and her ariel act.  This was also very cool.

And the first have closed with the delightful Miss Tickle.  Her Burleque was entertaining.  The feather panels on her skirt are all removable and she used them like fans. Then at the end she attached them to her arms and was like a bird flying around the stage.

Miss Tickle
Miss Tickle

After this all of the filmmakers in attendance were invited to the stage to tell about their film.  So Rob got to speak on the Burlesque stage.  He did good, he remembered to say his name, the film name, and when it was playing.  All the important details.


After an intermission which seemed to go on FOREVER because it was now 10:30 the second half started.  I didn’t take pictures during the acts because I was tired.  But we saw another burlesque dancer, Bambi the Mermaid in her lobster (or was it a shrimp) costume.  It made me giggle, and the song she danced to was funny too.  We saw all three members of Tokyo Delores in their acrobatic act, and the fire eater.  She was awesome.  I can’t remember her name, but she had some crazy tatoos.  And Rob got a picture with her before we left.

Serpentina, Tokyo Delores, the fire eater, Miss Tickle, Bambi the Mermaid, Fredini
the fire eater, Miss Tickle, Bambi the Mermaid (she still has on her lobster hat), Fredini
Rob and the fire eater

Rob’s screening is today (Sunday) at 3.  It should be fun.  I am bowing out of attending so I can get my school stuff done.  But maybe he’ll win a prize.

Coney Island = Awesome.